I can’t…But that’s not fair…If only… If I had…
I can still hear my dad’s words ringing in my ears, “If if’s, and’s, and but’s were candies and nuts, we’d all have a Merry Christmas.”
If excuses got us where we wanted to be, nobody on earth would have a problem with success. I used to be the king of excuses. It was always ‘his’ fault, ‘she’ did this, they did that, or really because any circumstance or entity, outside of myself of course, was at fault.
While this occasionally worked as a child, I realized something when I hit adulthood, the universe doesn’t care about my excuses. Period.
Circumstances, background, tendencies, other people, regardless of what tactics I employed to justify my action or inaction; it didn’t change results. Nobody ever needed to teach me how to make excuses, but what I did need to learn through the years was how to take 100% responsibility for my own life and actions. This is the only way to gain control.
Something else I had a knack for was writing off those who did succeed as the result of blind luck. Arnold Palmer had a beautiful response to this, “The more I practice, the luckier I get.”
I am not saying that excuses, justifications, reasons, defenses, or explanations are not sometimes warranted. I’m just saying that they aren’t going to serve you in achieving your goals.
Start looking for solutions instead of dwelling on problems. Get. To. Work.